Sexual Satisfaction – What’s Really Going On?

There has been a sort of “credibility gap” concerning orgasms.  A study that was conducted at Indiana University’s Center for Sexual Health Promotion found that while 85 percent of men said their latest sexual partner reached orgasm, only 64 percent of women said that actually happened.

“There’s this massive gap between men’s perception and women’s reality,” study co-author Debby Herbenick told ABC News. “It shows a lack of communication between partners, either by women faking it or by men not asking or noticing if their partner [climaxed].”

That’s just one small data point from a survey of 5,865 people about the sex lives of everyone from 14-year-old kids to married couples in their 90s that filled a whopping 130 pages in the Journal of Sexual Medicine.


For us Suddenly Solo guys, as we age, testosterone levels decline and changes in sexual function are common. These physiological changes can include:

A need for more stimulation to achieve and maintain an erection and orgasm

Shorter orgasms

Less forceful ejaculation and less semen ejaculated

Longer time needed to achieve another erection after ejaculation

You may feel some anxiety about these changes, but remember they don’t have to end your enjoyment of sex. Adapting to your changing body can help you maintain a healthy and satisfying sex life. For example, you may need to adjust your sexual routine to include more stimulation to become aroused.

Perhaps most importantly, don’t give up on romance. It can be difficult to imagine starting another relationship — but socializing is well worth the effort for many of us.  No one outgrows the need for emotional closeness and intimacy. If you start an intimate relationship with a new partner, be sure to practice safe sex. Many older adults are unaware that they are still at risk of sexually transmitted diseases, such as AIDS.


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