Is Casual Sex Satisfying?
Well . . . it depends what you mean by satisfying and for which partner!
Research involving 600 college students led by Justin R. Garcia, an evolutionary biologist at the Kinsey Institute at Indiana University, and researchers at Binghamton University found that women were twice as likely to reach orgasm from intercourse or oral sex in serious relationships as in the more casual, “hookups.” The paper was presented at the annual meeting of the International Academy of Sex Research and at the Annual Convention for Psychological Science this year.
A study conducted by Paula England, PhD who is a professor of sociology at NYU found that men are far easier to please! Her study of 24,000 students at 21 colleges over five years found that about 40 percent of women had an orgasm during their last hookup involving intercourse, while 80 percent of men did. But approximately 75% women who said they were in committed relationships said they achieved climax the last time they had sex.
Granted that the study groups in the research are college students and the physical and social components therein may not be analogous for us Suddenly Solos, but there does appear to be a connection between female orgasm and their relationship to their partner.
This does beg the question of orgasm being a standard to measure “satisfaction.” In the book, “The Case of the Female Orgasm: Bias in the Science of Evolution,” by Dr. Elisabeth A. Lloyd, a philosopher of science and professor of biology at Indiana University, she argues that there is really no evolutionary reason for an orgasm and it exists solely, “for fun.” But we feel strongly that while achieving orgasm is certainly pleasurable, it is often the journey that is the best part, and not necessarily reaching the destination.
And how prevalent is “casual sex” in our demographic? In our Suddenly Solo research, we found that 45% of the 400 divorced or widowed women surveyed (all over 55 years old) would have sex with a man, “just because they felt like it.”